With Valentine’s day around the corner, I wanted to chat with my single ladies.
I’m a married woman now, but looking back on my single days, I really wish someone would have sat me down and given me this advice back then!
Before I met my husband, I was always looking for someone instead of just having fun and enjoying life. I put way too much pressure on myself to find the right guy.
For example, I enjoyed going on vacations- but even on vaction I spent most of my time daydreaming I would meet someone like in a romantic comedy, instead of just enjoying the beach. (Thank you Lizzy McGuire Movie, Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants and any teen Mary-Kate & Ashley movie ever made)
Even going back to high school or in college at a party, the majority of the time I was preoccupied with my who my crush was or who might be potential boyfriend material around the corner. I felt like the idea of finding someone occupied way too much of my stress and worry levels.
Talking to my husband, he sincerely enjoyed his single years. Not because he loved being single or was a ladies man (he was not btw and he agreed to allow that disclaimer). But during the time he was single, he just wanted to hang out with his friends, and do what he wanted to do all the time. I’m a little envious I didn’t take advantage of that- I felt like I was miserable most of my single time and could have had a lot more fun if I didn’t put so much pressure on myself. I know for many girls boy drama can consume your nights out. It happened to me and I wish I had not let it get to me so much.
Thinking about it and looking back on those days I realized that I was my biggest problem- I was letting myself be upset over something I had no control over. #Wasted energy
Fast forward to when I met my now husband. Falling in love with him and us becoming us happened out of nowhere. And before I knew it, I became someone with someone. It was something I had wanted my whole life but I now understand you can’t force something like that. It will just happen when the time is right!
What I am trying to say is stop worrying about meeting someone because before you know it-it will happen to you. When its right it’s right and it just all falls into place. I am not saying it will be perfect either-there will definitely be ups and downs (and a few arguments along the way).
Just enjoy the single time you have left, do the things you love and have an amazing time with your friends.
Of course you should still definitely go on dates, put yourself out there and be open to love. Just be patient!
Stop the wasted energy,
The little Mystic